Being Seen and Known: Building Real Connections
As I get close to my two-year anniversary at BecomeMore Group, I’ve been enjoying one of the coolest parts of the job: going back to some of the same conferences and reconnecting with “my people.” Seeing familiar faces has reminded me how important it is to feel seen and known.
At big conferences, it’s easy to feel like just another face in the crowd. Networking events can be overwhelming too, with so many conversations buzzing around and activities to do. It’s tempting to hang back on the edges, but I’ve learned that real connection happens when you step in—and encouraging others to do the same.
For me, it’s about making people feel like they belong and that their presence matters. There’s nothing better than remembering someone’s name from the year before, recalling a conversation we had, or bringing up a shared experience. Those small gestures make a big impact. Here are a few ways I try to create those meaningful connections:
- Find a Friend
Networking events can feel awkward, but one of the best tips I’ve ever heard is to look for someone standing by themselves. Walk up, introduce yourself, and be that friendly face they need. It breaks the ice for both of you and can naturally lead to forming a little group as others join in. Plus, focusing on helping someone else feel at ease is a great way to ease your own nerves.
- Genuinely Compliment Someone
A simple, sincere compliment can make someone’s day. Maybe it’s their awesome purple blazer or the kindness you noticed when they let others go ahead in line. Calling out those small, positive details not only makes people feel good but also helps spread a little joy. In a world where we hear so much negativity, it’s nice to highlight the good when you see it.
- Remember the Details
Connections are built on the little things. Whether it’s a name, a cool company logo, or a memorable conversation, try to hang onto something about the people you meet. It shows you care and makes follow-up interactions feel more personal. Practice intentionality in recalling these moments—it shows you genuinely value the person and the interaction.
Creating a Culture of Belonging
Conferences and networking events are about more than just learning or exchanging business cards—they’re chances to build real relationships. When we make the effort to see, know, and value others, we create spaces where everyone feels like they belong.
Next time you’re at an event, challenge yourself to step off the sidelines. Find a friend, give a compliment, and remember the details. You might be surprised how those small actions can not only make your experience better but also leave a lasting impact on the people you meet.
Because at the end of the day, isn’t being seen and known what we all want?
Jenn Peterson
